We now understand the concept of boundaries from Part 1, and in Part 2, we completed a meditation to establish firm boundaries. Part 3 looked at how our emotions can indicate boundary violations. Part 4 explored examples of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual boundary violations.
In order to maintain personal safety and integrity, it is essential to address boundary violations as soon as they are perceived. How you respond is largely personal and depends on the type of boundary violated. Let’s go through different forms of boundary violation and consider different responses.
Physical Boundary Violation
Physical boundary violations include trespassing, theft, violent action, and physical harm. If you experience a violation of your physical boundary, you have many options available. You will need to weigh your own values, ethics, needs, and situation before choosing the right response. Participants in the sit-ins of the Civil Rights era trained themselves to withstand physical violence (as well as verbal abuse) without retaliating in kind, for example, but true nonviolence may not be right for every person in every situation.
The American legal system provides some opportunities for recourse if, for example, someone steals your personal property or commits violence against you. And here in Texas at least, trespassing could turn deadly if the property owner carries a firearm as a way to prevent physical boundary violations.
On a personal level, taking steps such as raising your voice and shouting for help or attempting to maneuver out of the grip of an assailant are examples of protecting your physical boundaries. Prevention can also help. Using caution when choosing potential dates, staying sober, keeping your car and cell phone in working condition, or avoiding high-risk parts of town are other ways to circumvent physical boundary violations.
Emotional Boundary Violation
The key to responding to emotional boundary violations is cultivating the awareness of your own emotional state so that you can discern when there has been some overlap, absorption, vampirism, or manipulation. Having a regular meditation practice (as well as psychic shielding for empaths) helps to establish your personal set-point so that you will be aware when something feels off. Practice sensing your own energy. If you notice a discordant or unexplicable emotion arise, check in with yourself and ask, “Is this really mine?” Your intuition will guide you.
Responding to an emotional boundary violation could be as simple as changing the channel instead of watching a fear-based news program. It could be as complex as having a shamanic soul retrieval or a series of counseling or Reiki sessions to help address the underlying the effects of the violation.
Emotional boundary violations also call us to assess and re-assess the state of our relationships. Sometimes the best response is simply to walk away or at least reorient yourself toward whatever relationship is creating duress.
Consciously working on generating soul qualities such as forgiveness and love can help soothe your own emotional body as well as that of the person who violated your boundaries. Strengthening your field of light and your connection to Source may help “burn off” emotional residue and purify your aura as well.
Mental Boundary Violation
Using your voice is one of the best ways to respond to a mental boundary violation. Often simply communicating that you find someone’s forceful or critical demeanor uninspiring can stop an otherwise violating dialogue.
Mental boundary violations also call us to assess and re-assess the state of our relationships to make sure we are including those we love and distancing ourselves from those who do not truly support our highest good. Sometimes the best response is to end a harmful friendship rather than continue to put up with mental boundary violations.
Spiritual Boundary Violation
In the case of encountering an individual or organization that is attempting to dictate your spiritual beliefs or denying your spiritual path, sometimes the best response is to remove yourself from the situation. Be careful to use discernment when interacting with new organizations and practices so that you avoid those that do not serve your highest good. Some “nasties” are actually drawn to spiritual organizations and gatherings because they energetically know that’s where the yummy light is. So, be aware that appearances can be deceiving; that Indian “yogi” may be a con artist, or the psychic healer may be working with some low-level helpers.
With psychic attack, it is imperative to clean out your auric field and also uproot or heal the vulnerability that allowed the attack to begin with. You can use tools like cord cutting (slices through subtle energy cords that drain us of energy), Reiki, a pendulum, ritual, or prayer to counteract a psychic attack.
Archangel Michael is especially equipped to remove cords and other psychic debris in our fields, and you can call on Archangel Raphael to come in and “heal and seal” your aura. Often, individuals who were “feeding” off of your energy will call or otherwise attempt to re-establish that connection after you cut their cord. So, be cautious and use discernment when interacting with individuals that you sense might be connected to a psychic attack. If you sense something’s off, you are probably right.
You may also consider using protective stones, such as black tourmaline, or visualizing all the attacker’s energy going into the earth to be transmuted. Being mindful of your own energy maintenance, keeping your aura bright and clear, and staying grounded will be beneficial for preventing psychic attack in the first place. It is vital to continually establish your own energetic presence through visualization or shielding techniques until you feel comfortable and strong going out in the world without absorbing other’s junk and gunk. I shield every day, and renew those shields if I am going into a potentially toxic environment.
Often entities who have not fully crossed over may become energy parasites that derive pleasure from using a human body to experience life. In cases like this, the affected individual may find themselves wanting to drink, have sex, smoke, etc. simply because the entity is seeking that sensual pleasure through them. These entities will play off our your weaknesses — whether it is a tendency to anger easily, worry, or be afraid — to convince you to do their bidding.
You will know you are being affected by such a spirit if you find yourself getting into arguments despite feeling like you don’t really want to be angry, or if you continually resonate with fear or worry. You may also hear odd voices in your head that are different from your typical thoughts (and have negative content) or have nightmares. It is essential to heal these risky emotional states so that these discarnate entities no longer have a foothold.
This is the final post in a multi-part series on boundaries and healing. Boundaries are especially useful for empathic energy healers and light workers. Appropriate boundaries can prevent picking up other’s “stuff” and keep your aura clear. What other methods have you found helpful for enforcing your own boundaries?