Boundaries & Healing, Part 3: Boundary Violations

We now understand the concept of boundaries from Part 1, and in Part 2, we completed a meditation to establish firm boundaries.  Today we will look at boundary violations.  What is a boundary violation?  How can you recognize one?

ImageA boundary violation occurs any time an individual or entity fails to respect or disregards your boundaries.  Just like laws vary by country, boundaries vary by individual.  So, an action (like cussing) that violates one person’s boundary might be perfectly acceptable or even desired by another.  For this reason, it is important to practice humility and awareness when interacting with others.

Your emotional state will indicate if your boundary has been violated.  In Language of Emotions, Karla McLaren describes how our emotions clue us in to boundary invasion.  So-called “toxic” emotions, such as anger, guilt, or shame, often indicate a boundary violation.

“Creating a strong boundary around yourself and becoming aware of your personal proprioceptive territory can be difficult because the condition of our personal boundary is intimately connected to many of the supposedly troublesome emotions.  As a direct result, many of us don’t have a good connection to the boundary-restoring anger and shame that could help us revitalize our personal space….” (McLaren, “Language of Emotions,” 137.)

According to McLaren, anger indicates that your boundary is being invaded from the outside, and is a call to fortify your boundary.  When anger arises, she recommends that youImage ask what must be protected or restored. Guilt or authentic shame indicate that you are violating your boundaries internally (or harming yourself).  If you experience these emotions, ask who has been hurt?  What must be made right? By being self-aware, you can better understand your emotional cues and take action to end a boundary violation.

In addition, you might feel uncomfortable, ill-at-ease, or start questioning yourself or the situation.  Do thoughts about that one guy keep bothering you?  Did you feel queasy about something that happened at work?  These are signs that something is not right as far as your boundaries are concerned.

This post is part 3 in a multi-part series on boundaries and healing.  Part 4 will look at examples of boundary violations on the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual levels.  Until then, pay attention to your emotions.  Notice any anger, guilt, or shame and try to assess the boundary that has been violated.



Enhance Psychic Powers with Reiki

ImageI became connected with Reiki shortly after stumbling onto my spiritual path. For most of my life, I did not have any type of spiritual belief system, other than believing that church was always boring. I was interested in so-called supernatural phenomenon, but tended toward science and rational thought.

When I received my first Reiki treatment, I could tell that this gentle healing energy had changed the way I saw the world. Colors were brighter, and I was enveloped in a soothing peace. After my attunement, Reiki began healing my energy system, and psychic powers gradually emerged. I am still surprised when new talents develop as I continue along my Reiki path.

Before Reiki, I was not in touch with my intuition at all, although I did practice meditation.  Reiki combined with meditation, practice, and psychic development training have greatly enhanced my latent psychic powers and can do so for you as well.

Connection with SImagepirit Guides, Higher Self, Angels

When you receive a Reiki attunement, you also receive a connection to Reiki masters who have crossed over and to your team of spiritual helpers.

We all have a Higher Self that guides us on our earth walk. This is the self that chose to incarnate, knows our mission and purpose, and knows our hearts and current situation.  Reiki helps clear your energy system so that this connection is stronger.

You may also find yourself interacting with enlightened masters like Jesus Christ or Kuan Yin. I personally have experienced a stronger connection to the angels and archangels. Depending on your individual makeup, you might find that you are able to discern your spirit team’s messages using psychic powers like clairvoyance, clairsentience, and claircognizance.

Empathic Abilities

It is very common for people who are drawn to the healing arts to also be empaths. As an empath, Spirit blesses me with an internal experience of another person so that I can help guide them or better understand their challenge.

For example, I may notice that I feel nauseated while the client is describing an upsetting situation in her life. This is my cue that that situation is not helping her digestion, and I can tailor my guidance to fit my impression. Sometimes, I will feel depressed when I am giving Reiki to a particular area, so I know that there is an emotional component to the problem and I can use the mental–emotional healing symbol to help clear it out.

Before I was attuned to Reiki, I did not understand my empathic abilities, and I actually “took on” other people’s stuff and thought it was my own. Once you are connected to Reiki, you will go down the path of discovering how to trust, develop, and deepen any psychic gifts that open.

Sensing Subtle Energies

Practicing Reiki helps increase your sensitivity to the subtle energy systems that undergird all reality. Sometimes I even see auras or special resonant fields around people, animals, or plants.  My hands have become acutely sensitive. I can feel energetic disruptions above my clients or when I am blessing and clearing a space. Sometimes, my hands will activate and begin sending Reiki just because someone needs it. I can sense the flow of this energy and tell when it stops and how strong it is. I also pick up on subtle cues from the environment.


I have developed the capacity to send and receive information telepathically, including with animals. The first time I gave a Reiki treatment to a dog, it was suffering from cancer.  I decided to try asking it questions to see what happened. It gave me very clear information about the type of diet it wanted using images that appeared in my mind. I was skeptical at first, but discovered that the food the dog was asking for was in fact recommended to help dogs fight cancer.

Now, if I want my cat to come home, I beam that desire telepathically, and he returns in about 15 minutes. You can also use telepathic power to communicate with people with whom you share a relationship, send healing, radiate kind and loving thoughts, and more.

So, those are just a few examples of the types of psychic powers and gifts that can develop when you connect to Reiki. It is a different experience for every individual, but it does seem to be universal that a Reiki attunement enhances psychic gifts in anyone who regularly uses Reiki.